Staying positive about getting your Child Organized
How would you like it if your boss constantly criticized you? Would you find yourself motivated and energized to do you best? When the door opened, and your boss’ face appeared, would you be glad? Would you look forward to having dinner with your critical boss? Would you want to discuss the topic of organization with him?
So, keep it positive. Find something to praise. Use humor to redirect a deteriorating interaction. If there is a punishment that needs to be handed out, do it without a nasty attitude. Since punishments don’t teach skills anyway, make them short and to the point. Then, figure out a way to durably fix the problem so it won’t happen again.
Remember, this is not war. Neither the child nor the parent is the enemy. They are teammates in this mess, together. The winner is the family that stays together. The techniques of staying calm, listening to your child, and keeping it positive are ongoing strategies for all of your interactions.
Thanks so much, Marcella, for posting! It's great to hear things straight from the author. (And yes, folks, to clarify, KidOrganizer is the real Marcella Moran, coauthor of Organizing the Disorganized Child: Tips and Tricks.)
Aug 17, 2009 2:41 pm
by MaggieH (admin)